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Thanksgiving and Sex
In two weeks, people all across America will sit down together for dinner and express their gratitude for the good things in their lives. And if this year is like prior years, the day after...
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I was going to write a blog about excuses and then...
A wise man once gave me advice at a wedding that the days would be long, but the years would be short. Indeed, I have found over the last twenty years of my relationship that it’s easy to get...
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Lean In... To Orgasm
Yup, that’s a table full of dildos. But I’m getting ahead of myself in this story. Let’s rewind back a couple years to when my friends and I never ever talked to each other about sex.The 15-year lead...
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Is sexting the best Valentine's gift of all?
One year ago I decided to give the gift of sexting to my husband.Most of my adult life, I have been sensibly listening to the good little girl inside me. She said things like “Eat your vegetables” and...
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How can I get my partner to want more sex?
In the last year of blogging about my struggles with sex in my relationship, the responses from readers have basically boiled down to two questions… “How can I get my partner to want more sex?” and...
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Who you callin' a sexpot?
I recently had some girlfriends over for brunch. I hadn’t seen one of them in a long time and while we were eating quiche, she looked up and said “So, how did you become such a sexpot?” I was so...
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What I learned from my summer of masturbation
I’d love to be able to share what I learned from my summer of masturbation. The problem is that I didn’t learn a damn thing because that summer never happened. Yes, it’s true that after attending a...
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Stranger role play and girl boners
My husband and I were headed to Vegas. I peeked at the monitor as my bag went through the airport scanner to see how obvious it was that I packed a corset, leather pants, rope and lube. We’d never...
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Everything I needed to know I learned in a class titled “Polishing the Penis”
Ever since my husband and I started seeing a sex coach, I’ve been researching everything I can related to sex. And by “researching”, I mean attending a class where I masturbated with a group of women,...
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The selfie stick is... sexy?
Selfie stick in hand, I lay naked underneath a skylight of an Airbnb in San Francisco. I am surrounded by a roomful of women, each testing out a different pose. Over the last two days, we had been in...
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A birthday gift to myself: Reclaiming my body
This summer, I came across some old journals from my childhood. It was fun seeing the world through my third grade eyes. Until I came to this passage: “We went into the store and were in an aisle...
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I am a sexual tension junkie
My husband and I were sitting in a hotel ballroom at the Sexual Health Expo in Los Angeles, attending a talk by a woman named Jaiya. She was in a flowy dress and was sharing her theory on her “Five...
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Naughty or nice: How learning to moan changed my (sex) life
We were in a hot tub underneath the stars and surrounded by forest. He was caressing my arms. It was no wonder I was feeling so… annoyed?The setting was right. I adore sex outdoors. The touch was...
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Sloths must have the best sex lives
Like Kristen Bell, I’m still a little emotional from a recent visit with a sloth. Maybe it’s the memory of his warm furry body nestled up against mine, or his funny curved claws latched onto my arms,...
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Reader stories: The woman in the black dress
This is the first in a series of reader-submitted stories about challenges and adventures in sex and relationships. Join the fun by sending your story to pam@downtothere.com. Tell us a little about...
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Slow-mo receiving and girl boners
My pussy swelled with anticipation as my finger hovered over the send button. My message said “I’ve been thinking about your body this morning, specifically that spot just above your collarbone where...
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That time I tried to like being dominated and learned I like to be objectified
As I sat watching demonstrations of dominance, submission and power play in bed, I assumed it would be another “meh, not for me” experience. But then I saw something I hadn’t observed before. As I...
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What kind of clothing optional resort is this?!?
It’s spring of 2013 and we are en route to a long weekend at a clothing-optional resort in Palm Springs. The sun is high in the sky when we arrive, and my flip flops sizzle when they hit the asphalt....
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I have voices in my head and they are trying to sabotage my joy
“Wow, this hotel room has your fancy cappuccino maker” he exclaimed. I rubbed the sleep from my eyes and glanced lazily at the clock, shocked to find it was 10am. I don’t think I’ve slept in that late...
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Boudoir photography: A time capsule of my sexual self
Photo credit: Éli Zaturanski, 2017 It was the summer of 2002. I was finishing up the lease paperwork at a car dealership when the financing manager handed me his business card. You can imagine my...
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